How To Pop The Question
Friday, December 16
Engagement season is upon us and many guys are getting ready to propose. Plans are being made, the question is being rehearsed, and heart rates are beating increasingly faster as the day approaches. But for many guys out there, they are stuck with the fine details of purchasing the ring and the planning that goes along with asking the question. If you fall into this last category, the following may be just what you need to help kick start your proposal planning.
HOW TO POP THE QUESTION
Q. SHOULD YOU GO ON ONE KNEE TO PROPOSE?
A. The act of going on one knee was historically done when one wanted to show respect towards someone of high regard and as part of a religious tradition. This act carried into proposals showing respect, humility and surrender to the women the man wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
Fast forward to modern times, this is still a admirable gesture given that most women visualize this scene when they think of their upcoming proposal. So if you have a good reason not to, perhaps getting on bended knee is one romantic ingredient you can add to your proposal.
Q. SHOULD YOU GO RING SHOPPING TOGETHER?
A. This is totally up to you as a couple. For some women, they want to select their ring, while others imagine their proposal to be a complete surprise. If she really wants to be part of selecting the ring, most likely she has indicated this in past conversation with you. If she is a hopeless romantic, there is a good chance she wants it to be a surprise.
Q. HOW TO SURPRISE HER WITH A RING?
A. The truth is the ring you select does matter; it should be a reflection of her style. So how do you determine her style? First, keep a listening ear for the hints she may be dropping. Typically, women are more than happy to share what they like or don’t like by pointing to images online or in magazines. Second, do some investigating. Check out her Pinterest page and ask her closest friend. The key here is subtly, which can be quite difficult for men. Brilliant Earth wrote a great article: “How to Find Her Ring Size Without Her Knowing.”
Q. WHERE DO YOU PROPOSE?
A. Your proposal should be a reflection of you as a couple, so think about your story.
- Where did you meet?
- What was your first date?
- What do you both love doing together?
- Do you have a favourite place?
If you are still uncertain, check out The Knot’s “58 Most Romantic Ways to Propose” for some ideas. Just remember to personalize it. When she tell’s the story of how you asked, she wants it to be unique to her, not a cookie cutter proposal.
HIRE A PLANNER
Still stressed or overwhelmed with the idea of proposing? That’s okay, planning such a big event is not for every guy. This is where Sharon Webb Events can help you. Together we can create a proposal story that is unique to you; one that will never be forgotten. Don’t hesitate. Before you know it, months will have passed only leaving you with an anxious girlfriend wondering if you will ever ask. This may put pressure on you causing you to pop the question without putting much thought into it. Let’s give her a story to talk about, contact Sharon today!
- National Proposal Day was created by John Michael o’Loughlin of Irving Texas after witnessing his cousin drag his feet in asking his girlfriend to marry him. John decided men needed a ‘push’ and created the National Proposal Day as the day to propose. This year National Proposal Day falls on the Vernal (Spring) Equinox. This year (2017) it will be celebrated over the course of three days: March 18th-20th.
- Curious about rituals in other countries? In Great Britain engagement rings are worn on the third finger of the left hand rather than the fourth finger in Canada and the USA. And in Thailand, gold and dowry negotiations are used rather than engagement rings as a payment for the prospective bride. Find out more at Proposal Customs From Around The World by Love Loupe.